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I'm a stalker!
Jan. 23rd, 2019 09:20 pmHave a bit of a social construct issue come up lately. I had a best friend back in 6-7th grade, who, due to his parent's divorce settlement, ended up getting lost for the last thirty years. We were never supposed to meet in the first place, and there's a whole story around it, but for two years we were the best of friends when boys and girls weren't supposed to get along. Well, I found him. I thought I found him years ago in a Yahoo fiction group, but never had the balls to actually email him at the time. I was never 100% sure it was him in the Yahoo group, but the writing style was him for as little information there was available.
Now we're both grown up professionals I've found his work information. Photo and all, 100% positive that it's him. Valid email and all. The moral issue is do I contact him? There is a lot of change since 7th grade that could have happened, despite the fact that I still feel like me in the intervening years. I couldn't find any marriage information but that doesn't mean he's not. Last thing I want is to contact someone who has a crazy partner who feels an old friend is an attack. Been there, done that before. Plus, the timing is bad. I'm not even sure I'm not reaching out because of William's illness.
Was his email/Linkedin profile put up as a temptation or as a trap? He's not contacted me in the last 30 years either, granted I've gotten married and changed my name. It's not as easy to track down a girl although it's possible with enough effort put into it. I don't want to bother him, but then again it would be really cool to get in contact again. There's only been a handful of people who I really have clicked with like that and if nothing else it would be interesting to see how he's grown up. His photo is still cute, although there was absolutely nothing like that between us as kids.
I don't know. Going to sit on that for a while I think. With his Linkedin profile I should be able to keep stalker-ish tabs on him. I'll know when the time is right, yeah?
Now we're both grown up professionals I've found his work information. Photo and all, 100% positive that it's him. Valid email and all. The moral issue is do I contact him? There is a lot of change since 7th grade that could have happened, despite the fact that I still feel like me in the intervening years. I couldn't find any marriage information but that doesn't mean he's not. Last thing I want is to contact someone who has a crazy partner who feels an old friend is an attack. Been there, done that before. Plus, the timing is bad. I'm not even sure I'm not reaching out because of William's illness.
Was his email/Linkedin profile put up as a temptation or as a trap? He's not contacted me in the last 30 years either, granted I've gotten married and changed my name. It's not as easy to track down a girl although it's possible with enough effort put into it. I don't want to bother him, but then again it would be really cool to get in contact again. There's only been a handful of people who I really have clicked with like that and if nothing else it would be interesting to see how he's grown up. His photo is still cute, although there was absolutely nothing like that between us as kids.
I don't know. Going to sit on that for a while I think. With his Linkedin profile I should be able to keep stalker-ish tabs on him. I'll know when the time is right, yeah?
